Celebrating Mother’s Day during Covid-19

Dear Ella,

Mother's-Day-photoI’m dreading Mother’s Day this year. I’ve been entertaining three kids ages 4 through 8, for a couple of months now, seems more like a couple of years. 

My husband locks himself in his room most of the day, even on weekends. He says he’s working, but I know he is struggling being in isolation. Normally, I would help him, but emotionally, I’m running on fumes and just don’t have the capacity to save one more person. 

Fortunately, my mom is safe at a retirement facility. I try to call her a couple of times a week so at least she hears my voice. I have a sister who is also taking on that responsibility and that helps.

What kind of Mother’s Day can I possibly have during this pandemic? 

Skip Mother’s Day


Dear Skip Mother’s Day,

There’s no question that this mother’s day will be one for the history books.

You’re holding down the fort for your whole family, which is not uncommon for many women. Add the mental stress of being in quarantine and you have a recipe for an emotional breakdown. 

Mother’s Day can give you the much needed permission to celebrate yourself and the amazing mom, daughter, aunt, woman you are. 

Take a moment and think back to the movie, It’s a Wonderful Life, when George Bailey was given the gift of experiencing what everyone else’s life would have been like if he didn’t exist. Think about that for a minute or two and you will immediately realize how vital a role you play in every single life you touch. 

Here are some thoughts on how to celebrate Mother’s Day for you and many other moms, daughters, grandmothers and aunts today. 

Take your well deserved break. It may not be for more than an hour or so, but take it. Your kids are old enough to know what Mother’s Day is, and your husband can come out of hiding for at least an hour. He may even surprise you.

Go for a walk, enjoy the blooming flowers, take a bubble bath, grab some sleep, read a book, play a video game, talk on the phone, visit your mom, sister or friends, while keeping safe distancing in mind. Indulge in a glass of wine or something you love to eat.

You can also order flowers, a cake or a meal from your favorite restaurant. Celebrate the amazing, accomplished, strong, woman you are. 

Mother’s Day is the one day a year where every woman should be acknowledged. Whether you are single, married, divorced, widowed, it makes no difference. Every woman is special. Every woman has added so much depth and love to others.

There is another layer to add to Mother’s Day this year, and that is to celebrate the lives of those we have lost this year. Whether it was to Coronavirus, or to some other illness, you were not able to grieve or say goodbye properly. 

Take a moment today to celebrate the life of that person. Light a candle in her memory. Plant a tulip or other flower that will come back every year so that every spring, you will be reminded about that special woman in your life.

You may not be able to go to a cemetery to visit those special women you have lost over the years. Light a candle instead. Whatever silent thoughts you share with your loved one, they will receive it in a different way this year.

Mother’s Day is all about appreciation. I think you will be surprised how many people will show their appreciation for you today. Relish in the moment. Take in that well-deserved praise and love. 

It’s these little wins that will get us through this time together. Hopefully next year we will be able to hug our loved ones and never take that closeness and loving human touch for granted. 

We are in this together and we will get through this together.

Wishing every woman a very happy and healthy Mother’s Day, 

For now, Ask Ella will continue online. I will be more than thrilled to answer your questions. If I publish your letter online, you will remain anonymous. I will always answer you either on line or in a reply email. If you have any questions, need advice or just want to talk or vent, I’m here for you. Please send your email to:


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